So, I’m back. The website was down for a while as I transitioned to a web server and got everything all spiffy-looking. Do you like it? The pink cosmo in the header is actually from my very own garden. (Yes, I am shamelessly begging for compliments.)

While I was offline, I’ve been thinking about where I want this blog to go and what kind of activism I want to be doing. I am a feminist and will always write about and fight for women’s rights. I am also a woman with multiple disabilities and I have started to shift my energies into fighting for disability rights. However, as time has gone by, it seems downright silly to me that disability rights are not a core element of the feminist movement. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), as many as 1 in 5 women in the United States are living with disabilities. Surely an issue that affects 20% of U.S. women is a feminist cause, right?

Well, not really. Disability rights and feminism have historically been separate movements and it’s time to change that.

While other feminists with disabilities have tried to end discrimination and harassment of people with disabilities by focusing primarily on ableist language and privilege, I believe we need to think bigger.

I subscribe to the social model of disability:

The social model of disability, on the other hand, sees disability as a socially created problem and not at all an attribute of an individual. On the social model, disability demands a political response, since the problem is created by an unaccommodating physical environment brought about by attitudes and other features of the social environment.

What this means is that although I may have a hearing impairment (among other things), it is not what disables me. My hearing loss in itself is not what keeps me from fully participating in society. Instead, I am disabled and left on the sidelines of society because there are:

  • too many jobs that depend on being able to hear and listen, such as simply being able to return phone calls on a regular basis (I don’t always hear well on the phone, especially if I have to take down information)
  • too many restaurants, stores, theaters, auditoriums, churches, and other public spaces with background noise and bad acoustics that make it difficult to socialize, network and simply be with people
  • too many unintelligible PA systems in stores, airports, subways, airplanes, and public and private buildings of every sort that provide relevant and important information (I freak out a little on planes every time the flight attendants come on over the PA and I can’t understand a word they’re saying. Are they saying something I need to know, something safety-related, or are they just announcing they’ll be coming along with the drinks cart?)
  • too many teachers and professors who don’t talk loud enough, fail to provide written notes/outlines/PowerPoints so I can follow along or simply just talk to the black/white board

Those are just a few of the ways I am disabled by my hearing loss according to the social model of disability. As feminists, I think we need to be doing more to support our sisters with disabilities. Temporarily able-bodied (TAB) feminists need to join the fight to help women with disabilities secure our rights in the following areas:

  • Health care (including reproductive rights)
  • Education
  • Economic rights
  • Sexual assault and domestic violence
  • LGBT issues
  • Immigration
  • Social Security
  • Women in the military and women veterans
  • Employment

This is not an all-inclusive list and I am 100% positive I have forgotten some very important issues. I apologize for that in advance. Also, it goes without saying that all of these issues must be viewed through a multi-racial, multi-ethnic lens. Being disabled is not just about white, middle-class women. It is just about ‘American’ women, either. While I will probably focus more on North American women, disability is an international issue and we need to be mindful of that.

In the coming days, weeks and months, I plan to talk more about all of these things. I hope you’ll join in the conversation.

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While I was watching Sunday Night Football last night, NBC played this DirecTV ad featuring Indianapolis Colts quarterback Peyton Manning nearly every commercial.

Here’s a transcript just in case you missed a word here or there, like I did. (Special thanks to The Undomestic Goddess for helping me transcribe!)

Let me tell you why you need to watch football in HD
From the one handed grabs,
For those naked bootlegs,
and all those punishing hips.
Hold up, hold up.
You’re not watching football in standard def, are you?
Only DirecTV brings you every NFL game in crystal-clear HD.
~(Manning finally looks behind him and sees the cheerleaders)~
Real funny, fellas. Real funny.

Yeah, real funny, isn’t it?

The language by itself is not problematic. A one-handed grab is what it sounds like: catching a football with one hand. In last night’s Colts game against the Arizona Cardinals, Colts wide receiver Reggie Wayne actually made a one-handed grab for a touchdown. Guess who threw the ball to Wayne? Colts quarterback Peyton Manning. (Video here.) The bootleg reference seems pretty harmless too. According to About.com, a bootleg is:

An offensive play where the quarterback fakes a hand-off to a running back going one direction while he goes the opposite direction to run or pass.

Finally, Manning alludes to “all those punishing hips,” supposedly talking about the numerous injuries racked up each week.

My problem is not with the language or even the imagery. We expect to see pictures of pretty, tanned cheerleaders with big breasts and little clothing jumping around at professional football games. These women have chosen to be cheerleaders, even though it is hard work and I don’t think they get paid very much. I don’t understand why but they have chosen this. (Yes, I find it incredibly sad that I just said it’s socially acceptable for young women dance in front of thousands wearing next to nothing.)

It’s what Peyton Manning says combined with the images onscreen behind him that make this ad truly horrific. As he talks about “one-handed grabs”, we see the cheerleaders with large breasts practically bursting out of their tiny tops. The “naked bootlegs” (emphasis is mine) line is flanked with pictures of cheerleaders doing that Rockette-style dance thing. Their boots are shown but the emphasis is on their long legs as the camera pans up to their tiny white shorts. “All those punishing hips” gives a great shot of a woman’s hips swinging from side to side. How are the hips punishing? Well, I don’t want to be crude so you figure it out.

Professional football is a violent game that (currently only) men consent to play with each other. Professional cheerleaders consent to work for these teams. Those are consensual acts. Sexual violence is not. This ad, produced by DirecTV and sanctioned by NBC and the NFL, is basically endorsing violence against women. DirecTV, NBC and the NFL are saying it is OK to “grab” women’s breasts, undress women with your eyes and fantasize about having sex with her, whether she wants it or not.

Honestly, this is so disgusting I barely even want to think about it. Still, women watch football. Women play fantasy football. Believe it or not, women even subscribe to DirecTV. This type of advertising is not OK.

What You Can Do To Help:

Email DirecTV, NBC and the NFL and let them know this type of advertising is harmful to women. It objectifies women. It sanctions sexual harassment and violence.  Tell them you will be boycotting DirecTV and encouraging others to do the same.

Please help me spread the word about this outrageous ad from DirecTV. You know the drill: email, Facebook, Twitter, etc. Maybe we an make a difference!

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Take a look at this photo from the Huffington Post’s slideshow of this week’s G-20 summit in Pittsburgh:

Pres. and Mrs. Obama greet Italian Prime Minister Silvio Berlusconi

Pres. and Mrs. Obama greet Italian Prime Minister Silvio Berlusconi (CLICK IMAGE to see it larger)

Italian Prime Minister Silvio Berlusconi is basically ogling First Lady Michelle Obama. Notice that Mrs. Obama has a very assertive posture. Actually it’s a little bit dominant. There are several feet between them. She has tilted her head just a tad to look down at him and extended her hand to shake his, just as she would in any other professional situation.

Now look at President Obama. He is standing back. He knows his wife can handle the guy but look at that hand. It’s ready at his side, just in case Italy’s Oficial Sleazebag decides to try anything. And the expression on President Obama’s face? “Do not pull any of your dirty B.S. with my wife First she’ll kick your behind and then I will.”  (Or something like that. There were probably a few more “Rahm” bombs in there but I’ll let you use your imagination.)

What I love about this picture is that the Obamas are showing all of us what it means to be confident, assertive partners in a healthy relationship. Michelle Obama has taken control of this potentially dicey situation and decided she will not be taken advantage of by this guy. She is First Lady of the United States and she will not allow to play his games with her.

Meanwhile, Barack Obama’s body language is very clearly saying, “Do not disrespect my wife. I do not approve of how you treat women.”

As we have seen an uptick in high-profile domestic violence lately (Rihanna, Tila Tequila), it seems to me that both men and women need a refresher course in respect and relationships.

Men need to learn to respect women a little more (ok, a lot more). Women need to learn how to respect ourselves a little more and realize that we are worthy of healthy, commited relationships. I realize it’s far more complicated than that. Still, Barack and Michelle Obama’s relationship can be an example for all of us of what a loving marriage and partnership should look like.

See also:

President Barack and First Lady Michelle Obama share a moment as they wait for guests to arrive at the G-20 reception they hosted.

President Barack and First Lady Michelle Obama share a moment as they wait for guests to arrive at the G-20 reception they hosted.

The Obamas wrap things up by sharing another moment

The Obamas wrap things up by sharing another moment

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