10 Days to BlogHer: Getting There One Mile at a Time

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Just a quick update on my pledge to walk twenty miles in the “20 Days to BlogHer” that I started a week ago Saturday. Over the last ten days, I have walked four times for a total of 5.1 miles and rode the stationary bike once for thirty minutes.

Considering I haven’t gotten any physical activity over much of the winter, I’m very happy with this progress. It also helps that my goal is primarily to increase my endurance and mileage rather than “I have to lose weight or I’m a big fat cow” as The Beauty Myth would have me believe.

I know I won’t reach my “20 miles in 20 Days” goal but thinking about physical activity (I refuse to call it exercise) in this manner makes it much more pleasurable and even, dare I say it, fun.

How do you approach physical activity without being sucked into the Beauty Myth that says you have to lose weight in order to be beautiful?

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"disability chic"

Yesterday Jezebel posted a link to this photo from Los Angeles Times magazine interview with actress Emily Blunt. In the photograph, Blunt is dressed in a beige minidress and tights, covered in beige makeup and poses against a beige, nondescript background. Her hair is pulled back and covered, as it she’s had a head injury. Her dress almost looks like a very glamorous ace bandage. Still, the most controversial thing about this photograph is, as Jezebel puts it, that the “crutches are accessories”.

I read the article from the LA Times and it appears the photograph was used as a metaphor for the vulnerability and brokenness of the characters Blunt has chosen to portray.

I have conflicting feelings about this. On the one hand, crutches are not only used by people with broken legs but also permanent disabilities. I don’t really have a problem with using disability as a metaphor. Our bodies break down and many people can relate to that. If it is done with sensitivity, I think disability as a metaphor has a potential to be very powerful.

However, notice I used the word “sensitivity”. The problem with this photo shoot is that Emily Blunt can take her makeup and costume off. She can toss the crutches and walk away. The photograph conveys vulnerability very well. As a piece of art, it succeeds. People who don’t live in photographs can’t throw their crutches away. They still have to live with limited mobility, pain, medical problems, etc.

Jezebel used the term “disability chic”, linking to other instances with Helmut Newton and Lady Gaga. I appreciate the right of artists to use disability in their work. Disability is a part of life. Still, sometimes it is not done right, disability as metaphor can come off as mocking people with disabilities. Emily’s photograph in the LA Times feels like this to me.

I wouldn’t use the word “chic” to describe disability. People with disabilities can be chic, of course but disability itself? I don’t think so. Disability can be beautiful, triumphant, brutal, scary, boring, lonely, horrific, peaceful and much, much more. Commercializing disability, as Lady Gaga did in her video by blinging-out her wheelchair, further minimizes the experience of people with disabilities.

Disability isn’t an accessory you can buy at the store. It isn’t disposable, like Gaga’s latest Gucci handbag. When you live with disability, you are usually stuck with it. You can’t take it off end of the day or throw it away when you get sick of it.

At the end of the day, that’s what irritates the most about Emily Blunt’s photograph. I know that when she was done with the photo shoot, she took off her costume, put down the crutches and walked away without any difficulty.

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Loving Your Body, Even When It's Hard

Me on Facebook yesterday: I hate my body today. I really do.

Fab feminist friend: Remember your Love Your Body post! This feeling will pass,,,

Oh damn. There’s nothing like having your own words come back you in the ass. It’s one thing to write all those idealistic, pretty words when things are going well on Love Your Body Day. It’s quite another to try walk the ‘body love’ walk when you’re recovering from a nasty fall down the basement stairs with a glass in your hand, I cut my hand up pretty badly and an now the proud owner of 17 stitches, plus I have bumps and bruises all over my body and I have a possible hairline fracture in my wrist. Plus, a nasty stomach bug was making me miserable.

Still, there was and is plenty left to love about my body:

  • My left shoulder, arm, wrist, hand and fingers, which have allowed me to do most of the tasks my right side does
  • My vocal cords, which have allowed me to ask for help when I need it and to swallow pain meds, chocolate, Diet Coke and other nutritious things
  • My eyes, which have allowed me to read, the only activity I’ve felt like doing for any extended period of time

My friend is right: even on the crummiest days, our bodies still do marvelous things.

Have you shown your body some love lately?

(For the record, I have poor balance and coordination as a result of my 2005 spinal cord injury. I wasn’t feeling well and simply lost my balance. No one pushed me. There was no domestic violence.)

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The Fat Double Standard in TV News

Until recently, the three main anchors at the local ABC affiliate WAOW in Wausau, WI, were Erik Mrotek, Melissa Langbehn and Pam Warnke. I say recently because it appears that Mrotek is no longer with one of the station’s anchors. Regardless, the trio shared anchor duties for years. During commercial breaks for Grey’s Anatomy or Private Practice, the station would run promos featuring Mrotek, Langbehn and Warnke for its 10 PM newscast.

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The promos would be a conglomeration of the three photos, something like this (only Mrotek was in the mix):

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I was always irritated when I saw these promos, as well as the few times I watched WAOW. Mrotek appears to be (very) overweight while Langbehn and Warnke are extremely thin. I am sure Langbehn and Warnke work hard to maintain their weight out of simple vanity and all that (the camera does add ten pounds, you know), but as women working in television, they must feel enormous pressure to be thin. Mrotek obviously doesn’t feel that pressure.

This double standard occurs in the national media as well. On MSNBC, Mika Brzezinski and Andrea Mitchell are stick-skinny. Fox trio of News’ blonde anchors (Gretchen Carlson, Megyn Kelly & Greta van Susteren) are tiny. Does CNN even have any female anchors? Oh yeah, Campbell Brown. Yup, she probably spends an hour a day in the gym, too.

The male anchors don’t seem to have to worry about their weight, though. For every guy that takes care of himself (Hello, Carlos Watson!), there’s another that needs to spend some serious time in the gym. (Yes, Keith Olbermann, this would be you.)

Then there is Glen Beck and Ed Schultz. Forget the fact that Beck is probably an evil genius masquerading as a paranoid schizophrenic who spouts crazy conspiracy theories. Forget the fact that Schultz can be extremely obnoxious, using his TV show as forum for his personal temper tantrums. Every time I see either of these two men, I wonder if they would have shows in prime time, if they were women. I highly doubt it. Beck is overweight. Schultz is probably clinically obese. (I have no personal knowledge of that. I’m just assuming from looking at him.)


If their names were “Glenda” Beck or “Edwina” Schultz, would they still be in prime time?

Fat chance.

Photos “borrowed” from WAOW, Fox News & HuffPost

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Remember When 'You Play Like A Girl' Used To Be An Insult?

play-like-a-girlI went Facebook yesterday and while I was looking at my newsfeed, I noticed that my 12-year-old niece had added this “Piece of Flair”. I can’t tell you how much I love this.

Our society worships at the altar of the 90210 stick-girls and calls Jannifer Love Hewitt “plus-size” and “curvy” for wearing a size four. At the same time, the First Lady is crucified for having pride in her athletic arms and legs. (OMG, did you see that she actually wore shorts on vacation on Martha’s Vineyard? Like, how totally unheard of.)

On the other hand, maybe Michelle Obama’s positive body image is having a ripple effect. Let’s face it: The parallels to Jackie Kennedy are not unfounded. She is educated, classy, beautiful and glamorous. Jackie O’s signature item was her sunglasses. Michelle O’s are her healthy, toned upper arms. Admit it: you’re jealous as hell. I am. I think Michelle Obama’s lasting legacy will be to be healthier and have a positive body image.  I think she’s having an effect already.

My niece is  trying out for the volleyball team at her school. I have no doubt that she’ll make the team, but even if she doesn’t, I love that she is taking pride in her body’s strenth and power.  Strength is beautiful. Health is beautiful. It’s not just about a number on a scale or a dress size.

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Pleasantly Plump or Pathetically Unhealthy?

I was back at the clinic this morning for another experiment in that Evil Demon known as Socialized Medicine. (Cue the Carmina Burana soundtrack.) I was in the dressing room about to change into the ultra-flattery hospital gown for an ultra-fun test when I looked in the mirror and saw this:

Me looking "pleasantly plump" - and liking it! 8/27/2009

Me looking "pleasantly plump" - and liking it! 8/27/2009

I thought, “Wow, I look really cute. I like how I look in this shirt and these jeans. I like my curves. I look, dare I say it… pleasantly plump?”

I was feeling pretty good about myself when I walked out to the small waiting area. Well, that is until I noticed the story on the morning talk show (I think it was the Today Show). The perky, skinny host and guest were talking about how important it is to reduce inches around our middle sections to reduce our risk for heart disease and other fun afflictions.

What the hell, universe? I couldn’t have even one moment of feeling good about myself without being reminded I’m an unhealthy pig?

I guess the larger question is, what is the balance between striving for better health and still maintaining a good self-esteem? How does the media educate the public on prevention and wellness and not make us hate ourselves at the same time?

I don’t have any answers. In fact, after my appointment, I decided to give the cosmos a ginormous “Screw You!” and headed to McDonalds for an Egg McMuffin meal. With a Diet Coke, of course.

The local Mickey D's - 8/27/2009

The local Mickey D's - 8/27/2009

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