Congratulations, Minnesota!

20130513-183554.jpgCongratulations, Minnesota! You just became the 12th state to recognize same-sex marriage. Progressivism lives!

I am so proud to be an honorary Minnesotan. I lived in southern Minnesota for five and a half years during college and was witness to the absurdity of the reign of Governor Jesse Ventura, the tragic death of Paul and Sheila Wellstone, and Norm Coleman and Tim Pawlenty’s head-scratching elections to the U.S. Senate and Minnesota governor’s mansion, respectively.

I voted in my first election in Minnesota. I was a sophomore in 1998, when my fellow Minnesotans elected Jesse Ventura as governor. (I voted for the Democrat so don’t blame me.) However, my best day as a Minnesotan was November 5, 2002, when I cast my ballot for Vice President Walter Mondale as the Democratic candidate for U.S. Senate from the state of Minnesota. He was the fill-in candidate for Senator Wellstone and I was so proud to honor both men with my vote.

Vice President Mondale didn’t win that election, a result I still don’t understand, but Minnesota returned to its progressive roots with the elections of Senators Amy Klobuchar and Al Franken and Governor Mark Dayton.

I am so proud of you for passing marriage equality today, Minnesota!

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#PutOnPurple for Lupus Awareness

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Yesterday was #PutOnPurple for Lupus Awareness Month, a day intended to help increase awareness of lupus and show support for those living with this disease.

What is lupus?

  • Lupus is a chronic autoimmune disease that ravages different parts of the body.?
  • An estimated 1.5 million Americans and at least 5 million people worldwide have lupus.?
  • No two cases of lupus are alike. Common symptoms include joint pain, skin rashes, overwhelming fatigue and fevers that last for days or weeks. Most people with lupus don’t look sick.
  • Lupus can impact any organ or tissue, from the skin or joints to the heart or kidneys. Two leading causes of serious illness and death from lupus are kidney disease and heart disease.
  • Lupus usually develops between ages 15 and 44 and it lasts a lifetime.?
  • Lupus can strike anyone, but 90 percent of the people living with lupus are females. Men, children and teenagers develop lupus too.?
  • While people? of all races and ethnicities can develop lupus, lupus occurs two to three times more frequently among African Americans, Asians, Hispanics/Latinos, Pacific Islanders and Native Americans than among Caucasians.
  • While the causes of lupus are unknown, scientists believe hormones, genetics (heredity) and environmental factors are involved—more research is needed to better understand the role of these factors in people with lupus.?
  • Lupus can be expensive to live with and treat. The average annual direct and indirect costs incurred by a person with lupus can exceed $21,000 annually, a higher cost per patient than those living with heart disease, bipolar disorder, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, diabetes, hypertension and asthma.?
  • Lupus can be difficult to diagnose. There is NO single blood test to diagnose lupus, and its symptoms mimic those of other diseases, vary in intensity and can come and go over time. More than half of those afflicted with lupus suffered at least four years, and saw three or more doctors before obtaining a correct diagnosis of lupus.
  • Early diagnosis is crucial to preventing long-term consequences of the disease. If you notice signs or symptoms of lupus, be sure to engage your doctor and ask questions.?

If you are like me and love someone who is living with lupus, please take the time to sign a petition urging Congress for funds for lupus research. Learn more at lupus.org/petition.

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A New Loss Every 28 Days

Three months ago, I said goodbye to Lucy. Two months ago, I bid adieu to Cassie. Last month, I said farewell to Allie. Each time, a little part of me died. Literally.

Sometime in the last year, I got into the habit of naming my unfertilized eggs when I get my period. I’m thirty-three and I know my baby-making years are slipping away. I have no idea if or when I’ll have children and I’m relatively at peace with that idea.

Maybe not.

Every time my period rolls around, the blood and tissue reminds of a missed opportunity, a little person that will not be. And a part of me is sad.

I’m not sad that I didn’t choose to have a child with someone I don’t love or that I can’t really afford to care for financially. Any child deserves the best and I know that up until now, I haven’t been able to give her or him the best. I know I’ve made the right choices.

Still, I’d love to know what little Bobcat (yes, Bobcat) would have looked like.

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What I’m Reading: Husbands HC

I recently read Husbands HC, which bundles the Husbands comic series in one nifty edition. I had never heard of the Husbands comics or webseries so I came to the story of Cheeks and Brady, newly married husbands thrust into a series of comic book adventures, with a fresh eye.

What I like: Writers Brad Bell and Jane Espenson treat their readers like adults, mixing cheeky humor and intergalactic flirting, with a dash of science for good measure.

What I liked most about Husbands is its homonormativity, perhaps best exemplified in Book 5 (“Arch Nemesis”). In this mock “Archie” comic, Cheeks & Brady as “Chick” and “Brick” decide to punish classmate Zak for trying to break them up by setting him up with a non-existent secret admirer. The plot was tired but that was the point, to show that Chick and Brick are as all-American as Archie and Betty. (Or Archie and Veronica.)

What I didn’t like: The blonde sidekick Haley is portrayed as a ditz. Is it too much to expect a gay comic series to include a strong, confident woman? I guess so.

I found the different artwork in every story disruptive, as the break in continuity made it impossible to tell who was Cheeks and who was Brady each time. Also, while I found the different genres (medieval fairytale, 1930s superhero adventure) interesting, I also longed for some continuity, perhaps a longer story arc, between the books.

Still, Husbands HC is a fun graphic novel and worth the read.

Husbands, by Jane Espenson and Brad Bell, will be published by Dark Horse on April 9, 2013. Pre-order your copy on Amazon.

Disclaimer: I received a review copy of this book via NetGalley.

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What I’m Reading: Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee

I’ve long had the sense that my house is built on other peoples’ graves. I’m not trying to sound all “woo-woo” spooky as if I’m telling a ghost story. My parents built this house ten years ago on a partially-cleared acre of land in northern Wisconsin. Within the last 100-200 years, it seems very probable that Native Americans were forced off this land so white settlers could set up camp and become lumberjacks and dairy farmers.

The sad part is that I don’t even know the history of this area. I grew up in western Wisconsin, which was and is sparsely) populated by the Ojibwe tribes. We learned a little about the Ojibwe in school but I honestly don’t have a clue what tribe(s) populated the area I live in now. I realize how pathetic my ignorance is as I read Bury My Heart at Wounded Knee. BMHAWK chronicles the systematic extermination of Native American tribes across the areas now known as the United States in the latter part of the nineteenth century.

Simply put, white people were cruel and inhumane murderers who directly or indirectly slaughtered the relatively few thousands of Native Americans left after nearly four centuries of European colonization.

I am ashamed to be white when I read how my white forefathers basically stole land from the Cheyenne and Navaho and Sioux, forcing them them to live on ever-shrinking plots of land without enough game for hunting. If the soldiers didn’t kill the Indians in battle, disease, malnutrition or starvation did.

For much of the book, I’ve wondered how any of this tragedy could have been avoided. Then I realized I am part of the problem. I was still trying to figure out a way for whites to coexist with Indians in North America. It probably wasn’t possible. White people from the United States had absolutely no rights to the Native Americans’ lands but we thought we did. We didn’t respect them or their rights of ownership – they were here first, after all – but I’m not entirely sure why. Was it our belief in white supremacy? If gold had been discovered in territory owned and actually occupied by other white people, say the French or Dutch, there is simply no way we could’ve gotten away with stealing white people’s land through manipulative, fraudulent treaties. We would have respected them too much.

Why didn’t we respect Native Americans’ rights to the territories now known as the United States? Were the Indians’ nomadic ways simply too foreign to us? If North America had been divided into what we knew as legal territories and “owned” by the various tribes (who had what we thought of as “documentation” to prove it) would that have changed anything?

I don’t have the answers. All I have are questions. To my Native sisters and brothers, if I may call you that, I am truly sorry. If only that were enough.

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A Girl with a Disability Who Truly is “Inspirational”

The disabled person as “inspiration” trope (think Christopher Reeve) is so overused it’s ridiculous. Most people with disabilities don’t want to be an inspiration for others. We simply want to live our lives as normally as possible, just like anyone else.

Still, the “Inspirational Cripple” Will. Not. Die. It probably isn’t going anywhere anytime soon, especially after the spectacularly successful 2012 Paralympics in London last year. Thus, we have this profile of Rachel Kroener, U.S. Paralympic Female Field Athlete of the Year.

Video transcribed to the best of my ability

Rachel: I’m Rachel Kroener, i’m fifteen, I have cerebral palsy, but it’s never stopped me from doing anything. Wheelchair basketball has impacted my life so much, like it’s made me so independent. I really want to go to the Paralympics. It’s given me that chance. I’ve met so many amazing people and I’ve made so many friends from wheelchair basketball. I’ve always been really determined. I’ve never let my disability stop me from doing anything. Like for me, your disability limits you to a chair but your chair doesn’t limit you. Only your attitude can. So this year I found out I got the 2012 Female Paralympic Field Athlete of the Year. I felt so honored. I didn’t even know that was out there.

Female teammate: She helps people get better, on and off the court

Male teammate: [I had a hard time hearing him... we'll just say it was inaudible, ok?]

Coach: She looks not just to play with kids her age but looks to challenge herself against the adults and always wants to push the boundaries just a little bit farther. As a child with a disability, a lot of people don’t expect much. She has that internal drive that most great athletes have to push herself beyond what others expect of her and sometimes beyond maybe what she expects of herself.

Rachel: If I’m going to be an inspiration, I don’t want to be an inspiration because I’m in a chair. I really want people to [inaudible] and do something meaningful with their life.

I love this profile of Rachel not because it’s “inspirational” but it’s so normal. Yes, the word “inspiration” is thrown around, but otherwise, Rachel is shown as a talented, accomplished athlete – who happens to have a disability. Most importantly, she is shown as a normal high school girl excited about friends, sports and new opportunities.

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No More Newtowns, No More Auroras

Like every other American, I am horrified by the massacre in Newton, Connecticut. I am searching for answers. I am so unbelievably tired of these horrific mass shootings. I hate that I am starting to become somewhat familiar with the police protocols for securing the scene and holding press conferences. Most of all, I hate that twenty-seven people died today, including twenty children, who should have been safe in their school.

I hate that I will never forget this picture.

As we mourn the dead, how can we stop this from happening again? Is there the political will to make it harder to buy guns? If not, why not? At the very least, we need to make violence prevention a national priority. We need to teach better anger management and conflict resolution. We should start this in preschool along with ABC’s and keep going with it as kids go through school and into the workplace. Maybe this sounds kumbaya but if we can’t make it harder for people to kill people with guns, we have to teach them not to want to kill them at all.

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Letter to Editor: Women Deserve Better than Sean Duffy

Democrat Pat Kreitlow

My letter to the editor in support of Pat Kreitlow for Congress has been posted at the Wausau Daily Herald:

EDITOR: Vote for Pat Kreitlow for Congress because Wisconsin women deserve a congressman who will fight for us in Washington.

We deserve better than U.S. Rep. Sean Duffy, who voted to defund Planned Parenthood, which provides vital health services to thousands of Wisconsin women each year. We deserve better than Duffy, who voted 30 times to overturn the Affordable Care Act and wants to force women, including women on Medicare, to pay expensive copays for preventive care and contraception.

We deserve better than Duffy, who is “100 percent pro-life” with no exception for rape or incest.

We deserve better than Duffy, who cosponsored a bill with Missouri Senate candidate Todd Akin that originally would have redefined rape as “forcible rape.” Akin recently said women don’t really get pregnant from rape because “If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways of shutting the whole thing down.”

We deserve better than Duffy, who endorsed state Rep. Roger Rivard, who told the Milwaukee Journal-Sentinel that some girls “rape easy.” We deserve better than Duffy, who voted against the Violence Against Women Act.

Wisconsin women deserve a strong advocate in Washington. Kreitlow believes decisions about a woman’s health should be made between a woman and her doctor. Kreitlow believes, as President Barack Obama said recently, “Rape is rape. It is a crime.”

We deserve better than Sean Duffy. Vote Kreitlow on Tuesday.

Visit Pat Kreitlow for Congress for more information and don’t forget to vote!


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My Letter to the Editor in Support of Tammy Baldwin for U.S. Senate

Tammy Baldwin for U.S. Senate

My letter to the editor supporting Tammy Baldwin for U.S. Senate appears in the Northwoods River News:

Tammy Baldwin will protect seniors’ benefits

To the editor:

In September, I had the honor of attending the Democratic National Convention as one of the delegates from Wisconsin.

One of the highlights of the convention was the delegation breakfast each morning, which featured great food and wonderful speakers such as Sen. Amy Klobuchar of Minnesota, Sen. Russ Feingold and Gov. Jim Doyle.

At our final breakfast, Congresswoman Tammy Baldwin gave a lovely tribute to Sen. Herb Kohl, especially praising his work on the Senate Special Committee on Aging. Since Tammy was raised by her grandparents, she saw at an early age how important Medicare and Social Security are to helping seniors stay independent. She talked about how much Sen. Kohl’s leadership on the Aging Committee to prevent elder fraud and abuse has meant to her and all of us with older parents and grandparents who we love dearly but can’t always be with 100 percent of the time.

I didn’t know much about Tammy Baldwin before that breakfast but I left secure in the knowledge that if elected to the U.S. Senate, she will do everything possible to secure Medicare, Medicaid and Social Security for my parents, who are retired. I know Tammy Baldwin will make sure those programs – which she calls “promises,” not programs – are financially solvent when my siblings and I retire in a few decades.

I trust Tammy Baldwin to protect Medicare, Medicaid and Social Security. Vote for Tammy Baldwin for U.S. Senate.

Danine Spencer

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