What’s not to love about Aaron Rodgers?
Today my neck hurts, my eyes aren’t focusing and my energy level is low. My arms are weak and ache to boot. I did my morning self-cares and made two phone calls. I still have to pay a bill and brush my teeth. This may be as much as I can do today.
This is my life post-spinal cord injury. Sometimes, this is the best I can do.
I was going about my business this morning, browsing my Facebook timeline when I happened upon this mind-boggling blog post: “Celebutard” lipstick-Hey Sephora..
I like the makeup, which is why I’m sad to say that I will not be shopping at your stores anymore. You got Kat Von D. to create an edgy line of products for you. I get it. She’s a beautiful celebrity that doesn’t look like all the rest. It’s appealing. However, the name (KAT VON D Painted Love Lipstick in Celebutard) of one of your lipsticks goes beyond edgy- it’s distasteful and hurtful.
Who were you aiming this at? From what I understand, the name pokes fun at “unintelligent celebrities” by mashing up “celebrity” and “retard.” It’s offensive, and not just to celebrities whose intelligence you are putting into question by using a term that once was used to describe people with intellectual disabilities.
I had never heard the term “celebutard” before so I googled it. Of course, there’s an Urban Dictionary entry:
A famous stupid person. Typically refers to the current crop of vapid celebrities.
My first thought is, seriously? And second, why am I surprised? Sigh. This is where we are at as a society. The current obsession with celebrities that seemingly have no talent except as celebrities (looking at you, Kim Kardashian) is obviously leaving a lot of people fatigued and desperate for quality entertainment. (For more on this topic, check out my pal Jennifer Pozner’s “Cringe or Binge” column at Salon or read her book Reality Bites Back.)
This celebrity-saturated cultured brings us the Kat Von D collection of lipsticks at Sephora. I’ll be honest. I let my People magazine subscription run out several years ago and I don’t have a clue who she is. According to the esteemed Wikipedia, she is a tattoo artist, musician, and you guessed it, reality show star who Sephora brought on board to create an “inspiring makeup collection exemplifies the fusion of glamorous, old Hollywood and edgy rock ‘n’ roll.”
How does using a variation of a slur wood against people with disabilities blend old Hollywood with edgy rock ‘n roll? When I hear those two phrases, I think a juxtaposition of Jean Harlow, Audrey Hepburn, Gwen Stefani and Courtney Love. (I know I’m probably aging myself there, but oh well.) I imagine glamour, beauty, excitement, and a little danger.
I do not think about making fun of other people. Putting on lipstick is supposed to make you feel more beautiful. It is supposed to enhance your beauty. I can’t imagine applying “Celebutard” lipstick before I leave the house in the morning. I would be ashamed I purchased the product in the first place and mortified to wear it in public.
Sephora, stop selling “Celebutard” lipstick. Now.
Update: Sephora pulled “Celebutard”!:
As soon as I hit “publish”, I did another search for “sephora” and “celebutard” and found this fantastic link from Crunch Conservative Mommy. Sephora has apologized and stopped selling the product online and in stores. Yay!!
I know I’m late to the party, but I just started watching Scandal. Like millions of other Americans, I love the romantic political mystery thriller starring Kerry Washington as DC power broker Olivia Pope in a red-hot love triangle with President Fitzgerald Grant and First Lady Mellie Grant. One of the best parts of Scandal is that it feels more diverse than other shows: Olivia and fellow gladiator Harrison are African-American. Huck is Latino. Even the “white” characters are more than just plain vanilla. Mellie is the classic southern belle. Abby has the alabaster skin and ginger locks of the typical Irish redhead (although actress Darby Stanchfield hails from Alaska). White House chief of staff Cyrus is an out gay Republican (!) who is married (!!) to James, a roving reporter for one of the major networks.
Creator Shonda Rhimes makes the Scandal cast seem accidentally diverse, as if she just hired the best people for the roles. This is particularly true with Guillermo Diaz. I can see Huck being played just as easily by an actor of a different ethnicity as long as they could play that tender yet terrifying character.
Huck is a fascinating character. Is there anyone whose heart didn’t break for him when Rowan forced him to kill again? Huck’s complexities – how violent and evil he can be one moment, yet loyal and loving to his friends the next – make him interesting. The scenes where he grapples with post-traumatic stress disorder are riveting. Yes, Huck has a mental illness that make him a compelling, must-watch character.
Huck’s disability (PTSD) makes him a more complete character. It makes us care about his past, present and future. What caused the PTSD? How does he handle it? (He doesn’t.) How will he react to triggers in the future?
The PTSD seems organic for Huck. He has endured a lot of violence, therefore has PTSD. Given the seemingly natural range of ethnicities, it seems weird that there aren’t more characters with disabilities (PWDs) on Scandal. Shonda Rhimes obviously understands that the people who work in Washington, D.C. look and sound like the rest of the U.S. None of us have perfect bodies, though, and Scandal would be a great place to incorporate disability on broadcast TV.
I’m not suggesting all ten cast members become quadriplegics in power chairs, because let’s face it, I don’t think D.C. is that accessible. However, I can easily see a few characters with disabilities:
- Harrison has a learning disorder, which might explain why he is so dependent on his verbal skills.
- Abby has hearing loss in one ear from when her ex-husband beat her up.
- Quinn might be a good candidate to have Asperger’s. (Thoughts on this?)
- Fitz has chronic pain from being shot and has to have physical therapy, massage, etc.
- Cyrus is starting to get arthritis.
- Olivia wears contacts for near-sightedness. She puts on her glasses when she is relaxing at home.
- And Mellie? Maybe gestational diabetes from the pregnancy that turned into regular diabetes?
None of these conditions/disorders/disabilities would have to be story lines in themselves but would add to the complexity of each character – and the show.
We need more PWDs on TV. According to a new GLAAD report, just one percent of characters on broadcast television this season have a disability. Programs like Scandal could make their characters more human, more real, simply by including more people with disabilities.
I’m feeling guilty today because I’m not going to make it out of the house. I’m experiencing a lot of pain in my face, head and neck, all the way down to the area where my shunt is in my stomach. I’ve been doing some myofascial release to help a deep wound heal on my face. The good news is that it is working. The wound is healing and looks better every day. The bad news is that the therapy must be hitting some nerves that is causing pain throughout my body.
I’m willing to take the pain in the short term. The face wound must heal. I’ve had it in one form or another for over two and a half years. At one point, it covered half my cheek. I was even diagnosed with MRSA. (I have no idea how I got that but let’s face it, the superbug is everywhere.) Now the wound is about an inch long and less than a half inch wide. Progress!
I will happily take the pain if it means the wound heals and I don’t have much of a scar when this is all over. I can live with a scar but I’d like it to be small enough that it is not the first thing people notice when they see me, you know? I’d rather they notice my eyes or my smile.
Also, this is really resonating today.
So, I need an attitude adjustment. When I was in high school and feeling guilty because my body wouldn’t let me do enough, my mom would ask me, “What the most important thing?” The correct answer was always, “My health,” followed by school, work, and then any other activities.
I need to give myself time to heal. My body is recovering from a major wound that had MRSA in it at one point. Part of having chronic pain and disabilities is remembering to have patience. I have to re-learn this lesson daily. I have to have patience with my body. I may not be able to do what i want to today (shower, get dressed, get Mexican takeout and spend a couple hours at the library) but I might be able to do it tomorrow.
For today, it will have to be enough to appreciate how sunny and beautiful it is outside my window. I don’t have the energy to go sit outside – the patio chairs aren’t comfortable enough to cushion my sore body and it is too chilly today – but I can appreciate the beautiful blue sky and the brilliant sunshine.
I am grateful for the simple things. They will have to be enough for today.
I can’t believe how long it has been since I’ve posted. I usually don’t write because I think I don’t have anything to say, but as bell hooks said,
“No woman has ever written enough.”Part of the problem with this blog is that it doesn’t have a focus. I’m thking of tentatively giving it the name of (Disabled) Grrl. The parenthesis would be for my invisible disabilities, “Disabled” would focus on disability rights, and “Grrl” would represent my feminist and political side
So what’s going on with me lately? My father died in March and it hit me like a brick. I moved back to my hometown and love being back by family and friends. And I’m counting the days until summer returns. Who has a beach hideaway I can escape to?
Congratulations, Minnesota! You just became the 12th state to recognize same-sex marriage. Progressivism lives!
I am so proud to be an honorary Minnesotan. I lived in southern Minnesota for five and a half years during college and was witness to the absurdity of the reign of Governor Jesse Ventura, the tragic death of Paul and Sheila Wellstone, and Norm Coleman and Tim Pawlenty’s head-scratching elections to the U.S. Senate and Minnesota governor’s mansion, respectively.
I voted in my first election in Minnesota. I was a sophomore in 1998, when my fellow Minnesotans elected Jesse Ventura as governor. (I voted for the Democrat so don’t blame me.) However, my best day as a Minnesotan was November 5, 2002, when I cast my ballot for Vice President Walter Mondale as the Democratic candidate for U.S. Senate from the state of Minnesota. He was the fill-in candidate for Senator Wellstone and I was so proud to honor both men with my vote.
Vice President Mondale didn’t win that election, a result I still don’t understand, but Minnesota returned to its progressive roots with the elections of Senators Amy Klobuchar and Al Franken and Governor Mark Dayton.
I am so proud of you for passing marriage equality today, Minnesota!
Yesterday was #PutOnPurple for Lupus Awareness Month, a day intended to help increase awareness of lupus and show support for those living with this disease.
What is lupus?
- Lupus is a chronic autoimmune disease that ravages different parts of the body.?
- An estimated 1.5 million Americans and at least 5 million people worldwide have lupus.?
- No two cases of lupus are alike. Common symptoms include joint pain, skin rashes, overwhelming fatigue and fevers that last for days or weeks. Most people with lupus don’t look sick.
- Lupus can impact any organ or tissue, from the skin or joints to the heart or kidneys. Two leading causes of serious illness and death from lupus are kidney disease and heart disease.
- Lupus usually develops between ages 15 and 44 and it lasts a lifetime.?
- Lupus can strike anyone, but 90 percent of the people living with lupus are females. Men, children and teenagers develop lupus too.?
- While people? of all races and ethnicities can develop lupus, lupus occurs two to three times more frequently among African Americans, Asians, Hispanics/Latinos, Pacific Islanders and Native Americans than among Caucasians.
- While the causes of lupus are unknown, scientists believe hormones, genetics (heredity) and environmental factors are involved—more research is needed to better understand the role of these factors in people with lupus.?
- Lupus can be expensive to live with and treat. The average annual direct and indirect costs incurred by a person with lupus can exceed $21,000 annually, a higher cost per patient than those living with heart disease, bipolar disorder, chronic obstructive pulmonary disease, diabetes, hypertension and asthma.?
- Lupus can be difficult to diagnose. There is NO single blood test to diagnose lupus, and its symptoms mimic those of other diseases, vary in intensity and can come and go over time. More than half of those afflicted with lupus suffered at least four years, and saw three or more doctors before obtaining a correct diagnosis of lupus.
- Early diagnosis is crucial to preventing long-term consequences of the disease. If you notice signs or symptoms of lupus, be sure to engage your doctor and ask questions.?
If you are like me and love someone who is living with lupus, please take the time to sign a petition urging Congress for funds for lupus research. Learn more at lupus.org/petition.
Three months ago, I said goodbye to Lucy. Two months ago, I bid adieu to Cassie. Last month, I said farewell to Allie. Each time, a little part of me died. Literally.
Sometime in the last year, I got into the habit of naming my unfertilized eggs when I get my period. I’m thirty-three and I know my baby-making years are slipping away. I have no idea if or when I’ll have children and I’m relatively at peace with that idea.
Every time my period rolls around, the blood and tissue reminds of a missed opportunity, a little person that will not be. And a part of me is sad.
I’m not sad that I didn’t choose to have a child with someone I don’t love or that I can’t really afford to care for financially. Any child deserves the best and I know that up until now, I haven’t been able to give her or him the best. I know I’ve made the right choices.
Still, I’d love to know what little Bobcat (yes, Bobcat) would have looked like.
I recently read Husbands HC, which bundles the Husbands comic series in one nifty edition. I had never heard of the Husbands comics or webseries so I came to the story of Cheeks and Brady, newly married husbands thrust into a series of comic book adventures, with a fresh eye.
What I like: Writers Brad Bell and Jane Espenson treat their readers like adults, mixing cheeky humor and intergalactic flirting, with a dash of science for good measure.
What I liked most about Husbands is its homonormativity, perhaps best exemplified in Book 5 (“Arch Nemesis”). In this mock “Archie” comic, Cheeks & Brady as “Chick” and “Brick” decide to punish classmate Zak for trying to break them up by setting him up with a non-existent secret admirer. The plot was tired but that was the point, to show that Chick and Brick are as all-American as Archie and Betty. (Or Archie and Veronica.)
What I didn’t like: The blonde sidekick Haley is portrayed as a ditz. Is it too much to expect a gay comic series to include a strong, confident woman? I guess so.
I found the different artwork in every story disruptive, as the break in continuity made it impossible to tell who was Cheeks and who was Brady each time. Also, while I found the different genres (medieval fairytale, 1930s superhero adventure) interesting, I also longed for some continuity, perhaps a longer story arc, between the books.
Still, Husbands HC is a fun graphic novel and worth the read.
Husbands, by Jane Espenson and Brad Bell, will be published by Dark Horse on April 9, 2013. Pre-order your copy on Amazon.
Disclaimer: I received a review copy of this book via NetGalley.